forgive me for keeping you waiting. i've been busy tying up work before semester ends, especially completing the syllabus with the students before exam. alhamdulillah, all done for now.
about the advice you seek.
first and foremost, i'm not sure if i'm the right person to give the advice, seeing that i'm a generation older than you. certain norms about relationships may have changed, i dont know, but i do think the intrinsic values are the same.
being a uni student, and working for a degree to forge a career is a very taxing and intense affair,especially for males, who, at the end of the game, would be the main breadwinner for the family.
expectations are high, and your vision for your future needs to be clear.
i guess, in the light of that aim, one starts to look for a mate, a soulmate, with whom one can share and build a future together.
do you start to look for one now?
well dear boy, i dont quite know the 'proper' time for when such things happen. so i'll just throw you a couple of questions to ponder ye..
is it the proper time for it when someone comes into our lives, and grabs our attention, and makes our heart beat faster?
do we seek for someone because we're very lonely?
do we seek for that particular someone, because all the others are into it, and we're the only ones not in the game?
do we wait until our study is done, and then only focus on affairs of the heart?
can we study, and still have a relationship going?
i do know however, that, a lot of parents will advice their children to study first, before plunging into love matters, because, for a lot of people, affairs of such nature have a tendency to put one off-balance, lose focus on primary issues, and generally makes one's life go quite out of sync!..haha..in other words, it can make our lives go topsy-turvy if we're not careful. some have also wrecked their future, because of it!
so, its not a wonder parents caution their children with such advice.
so akmal, will that happen if you start now? only you can tell dear boy.
loneliness, and seeing others nurture a relationship can put pressure on us to want one ourselves. some of us get scared to start one, because we feel we're not ready and also when we see break-ups and relationships turning sour and bad.
if you feel you've met someone with whom you want to give a try, then maybe you should. but please understand the responsibilities that comes along with it.
you're not to sideline and lose focus on your studies. you're not to give up your other social work and contributions. having a relationship doesnt mean you exclude all else form your life. balance plays an important role, akmal.
if you think you can achieve balance, and that the relationship helps you achieve a better focus on study, then i guess its okay to start it.
jodoh dan rezeki adalah pemberian Allah.you know that kan. please handle your heart, and life with tender loving care ye. tread carefully and try not to hurt others and yourself too. and do follow the guidelines that our religion allows.
everyone seeks for happiness in life. having a soulmate to call your own, and build a family of your own, has always been the nature of man.
so akmal, i wish you wisdom in your decisions; happiness in your search; and much success.
i've always appreciated the fact that you still remember me,akaml, and am willing to keep in touch, when all others tend to forget, in their quest for their future. its very good of you to send me your smses. it makes me very happy to hear from you.
i wish you all the best, dear akmal. and please, do write when you're free.its always lovely to hear from you.
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